How a “Holding Environment” Supports Psychological Growth

How exactly does psychotherapy help you grow, learn, and heal? For some schools of thought, the answer to this question is found in prescriptive tools or techniques, manualized treatments, and medications. In Depth or Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy which I practice, the answer to this question is found much more in the quality of the therapeutic relationship between therapist and client. What some people want when they enter the psychotherapy office is to have a kind of experience in a relationship, a new kind of experience they might have never had before, where they feel heard, understood, encouraged, and supported in a deep embodied way.

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Navigating Marital Conflict: Finding Harmony in Long-Term Relationships

Marriage is a wonderful part of life for most people, however what we don’t often hear about in the media or on facebook feeds is how common marital conflict is. Many people experience conflict in their marriages or long term relationships that sometimes doesn’t show up until years or even decades into a relationship. When you are in a relationship with someone for a long time, you and your partner will inevitably change and grow, and your relationship will have to change and grow with you.

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What Object Relations Theory tells us about how our early childhood experiences shape our lives and relationships

Object Relations Theory, a psychoanalytic principle developed in the mid 1900s by various psychoanalysts including Melanie Klein and Donald Winnicott, outlines the way that individuals absorb their early childhood experiences and have a mysterious way of repeating, or being affected by these early experiences much later in their life as adults.

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What to do if you're so depressed you cant get out of bed

Depression manifests in various forms and affects individuals differently. Many people with depression experience a loss of interest in previously fun or exciting activities, they feel a sense of hopelessness about the future, and often a sense of guilt or self hatred. What some people don’t realize about depression is that in its more advanced forms, depression can start to affect biological functioning, leading to insomnia, eating difficulties, severe fatigue, or an inability to get out of bed. Experiencing such a severe depressive episode can make you feel trapped and angry with yourself. When depression is really bad, just “snapping out of it” isn’t really an option, and gentler, compassionate approaches are necessary.

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Four Signs You're Engaging in Toxic Positivity Without Knowing It

The concept of toxic positivity refers to a mindset which overemphasizes positivity to the exclusion of the more complex and challenging realities of life. This approach can be harmful as it leaves little room for you to be honest with yourself about the negative emotions you are experiencing. Everyone experiences negative emotions, and success in mental health does not mean eliminating these emotions, but learning to live with and acknowledge negativity when it comes up.

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Preventing Common Marriage Pitfalls: How Premarital Therapy Can Help

Premarital therapy offers a valuable opportunity for you and your future spouse to prepare yourselves and your relationship for the life you are embarking on together. With divorce being a common outcome for many marriages, premarital therapy can help you avoid specific pitfalls that often lead to bitterness, discord, and ultimately, divorce. By addressing potential conflicts early on and exploring various aspects of your relationship that can commonly cause existential conflicts, premarital therapy equips you to navigate challenges collaboratively and build resilience together.

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What is “Relational” Psychotherapy?

Many people come to therapy thinking they will get new insights or tools to help them overcome their suffering, and while these approaches have their place and do occur in therapy, often I find clients are dissatisfied and left feeling a bit empty when therapists simply give them a worksheet or apply distant theoretical frameworks. The hidden dimension of therapy which often determines whether a therapy is successful or not, is the relational dynamics between therapist and client, and the rich tapestry of experiences this dynamic can lead to.

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What is Complex PTSD?

While classic or “simple” PTSD is what we often think of when we think of trauma, developmental or complex ptsd is much more common, and in some ways much more insidious. Someone who has suffered from severe complex ptsd might constantly feel like they are unworthy, they might feel a distinct and severe sense of anxiety in close relationships, they might chronically fawn or people-please in order to appease the perceived needs of others, or there might be other complex expressions of insecurity or anxiety in relationships.

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Covid-19 and Depression: How the Pandemic Can Affect Your Mental Health

The Covid-19 pandemic has now lasted almost two whole years, and during that time it has had a huge impact on many areas of our lives. Many people have found their existing depression has gotten a lot worse over the pandemic, and other people have developed depression for the first time in their lives during Covid-19. In this article I’ll outline a couple of ways in which the Covid-19 pandemic has affected us all and could contribute to worsening depression symptoms.

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Non-medical treatments for Major Depressive Disorder

Major depressive disorder can be incredibly difficult to live with. If you have experienced depression yourself, then you have probably wondered what you can do to help alleviate it in your life. If you are struggling with major depressive disorder and you want to try to help your mental health without the support of medication, here are some ideas to help you get started.

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Five signs you might be depressed

If you are struggling with negative moods, feeling “off”, or having low self esteem, it might be hard to tell sometimes if what you are experiencing is just a temporary low point which is nothing serious, or if you are experiencing a depressive episode in your life. Understanding whether or not you are suffering from depression can be incredibly important in how you treat whatever mood you are in and whether or not you seek help.

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