Resolve Your Trauma in Three Sessions? On Therapy in the Era of Quick Fixes

By taking the time to examine yourself and expand the awareness of your inner life, you can discover parts of yourself that are running on old information - often laid down in childhood - that are no longer serving you. The work of listening deeply to yourself and identifying inner unconscious processes that shape who you are and how you exist in the world can be incredibly liberating, and I have seen this process help to resolve traumas, grieve losses, face fears, and ease symptoms like anxiety, depression, and addiction. It is not, however, fast, easy, or convenient.

Trauma TherapyConnor MossJune 17, 2026Pacific Psychotherapy

What kind of therapy is right for you?

Your experience in therapy is going to vary greatly depending on the theoretical orientation and underlying ideas that your psychotherapist holds. Different psychotherapists and different theories of psychological healing can vary vastly, and therapy is not a one size fits all solution.

Trauma TherapyConnor MossApril 6, 2026Pacific Psychotherapy

What Object Relations Theory tells us about how our early childhood experiences shape our lives and relationships

Object Relations Theory, a psychoanalytic principle developed in the mid 1900s by various psychoanalysts including Melanie Klein and Donald Winnicott, outlines the way that individuals absorb their early childhood experiences and have a mysterious way of repeating, or being affected by these early experiences much later in their life as adults.

Trauma TherapyConnor MossDecember 4, 2023Pacific PsychotherapyDepth Psychotherapy

What is Complex PTSD?

While classic or “simple” PTSD is what we often think of when we think of trauma, developmental or complex ptsd is much more common, and in some ways much more insidious. Someone who has suffered from severe complex ptsd might constantly feel like they are unworthy, they might feel a distinct and severe sense of anxiety in close relationships, they might chronically fawn or people-please in order to appease the perceived needs of others, or there might be other complex expressions of insecurity or anxiety in relationships.

Trauma TherapyConnor MossApril 18, 2023Pacific Psychotherapy

Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn

Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn are four common reactions we see when someone has endured a traumatic experience. In trauma healing, understanding and reconciling the reactions of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn is essential to heal post-traumatic stress.

Trauma TherapyConnor MossJune 11, 2021Pacific Psychotherapy

How to deal with "difficult" parts of yourself

We all have parts of ourselves that are sometimes difficult to love. Learning to cope with and be with the difficult parts of ourselves is an essential step towards healing and self acceptance. Learning to accept these “difficult” parts is an important part of trauma healing, healing from depression, anxiety, or low self esteem.

Trauma TherapyConnor MossMay 28, 2021Warm Heart Counseling

How to Work Through Difficult Emotions

I want to talk about an acronym that I found really useful in working with some of my clients lately. This acronym is from some mindfulness meditation teachers, and they use it to describe a process of managing through thoughts when you're in meditation. It’s a way to deal with thought patterns that might be getting in the way of your focus. The acronym is R-A-I-N, and it stands for Recognize, Accept, Investigate and Nurture.

Trauma TherapyConnor MossApril 9, 2021Warm Heart Counseling

How to set effective boundaries

Boundaries are extremely important because they create the space in your life you need to thrive. Understanding what boundaries you need for yourself and setting them in an effective and clear way with the people around you will help you to feel supported in your life and will allow you to get your needs met.

Trauma TherapyConnor MossFebruary 10, 2021Warm Heart CounselingBoundaries, Communication, Trauma Therapy

How somatic psychotherapy can help with trauma healing

Trauma affects not only psychological health, but also has deep impacts on your nervous system and brain functioning. There are physical impacts in the brain, nervous system and body of a trauma survivor. Some psychology researchers like Bessel van der Kolk assert that traumatic events are stored in the physical body and have a fundamentally somatic component to them.

How is intergenerational trauma affecting you?

Have you ever wondered how your family history might be affecting your mental and emotional wellbeing? Intergenerational trauma has a model that might help explain how your family history might be affecting you today.

How to foster self compassion

Your beliefs about yourself, how you talk to yourself, and the actions and thought patterns throughout your life will build up or break down your self compassion muscle. Here are some ways I have found that help you start to build a sense of love and compassion for yourself.

The 3 phases of trauma healing

If you have suffered from trauma, the idea of addressing it can feel completely overwhelming. However, healing is possible, and there are several common steps in trauma healing which often follow a similar pattern.

Trauma TherapyConnor MossDecember 16, 2020Warm Heart CounselingTrauma, Trauma Healing, Trauma Therapy

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